About
Why SHOR exists
When someone you love is struggling, it has a way of taking up more and more of your life.
You check your phone. You wonder where they are, whether you should call, whether you should give them space, whether helping is actually helping. You replay the last conversation. You try to stay hopeful while getting ready for what might come next. And somewhere along the way, it gets easy to forget there is still a life that is yours.
I know this from both sides
Me
I have 16 years in recovery. For a long time I was the person everyone was worried about.
My mom
She was the one doing the worrying.
She loved me fiercely. She tried to help. She had to learn when to step in, when to step back, when to hold on, and when to draw a line.
She carried hope and fear and guilt and frustration and love, often in the same hour.
Today I understand what that cost her in a way I could not then. I wish she had had something that was just for her. People who already knew, so she did not have to tell the whole story. A reminder that her life still mattered too.
That is why I built SHOR.
Who SHOR is for
- Parents
- Partners
- Siblings
- Adult children
- Friends
The texts are about you.
You can love them and still get support of your own.
When someone you love has an addiction, you have to learn a new language. SHOR helps you practice it, one text at a time.
Hard conversations go better in daylight on a full stomach.
Two texts a day
A practical idea every morning and a check-in every evening, for a full year.
I hear you. Same answer. I love you.
Words practiced before you need them
Reply with the line in your own words, so it’s ready when the moment comes.
LINE
Help in the moment
Text LINE and get the right words for what is happening right now.